Monday, January 17, 2011

It's official! One less, One more DeLuca!







































































Let's just say today offers a new definition for emotional rollercoaster! But all ending well, and there is a cute little curious preschooler with his hand on my arm right now intently watching me type this and dying to get his hands on this lap top and I couldn't be any more SHOCKED our days ending like this. We got to Civil Affairs about 20 minutes before the orphanage staff and Will. I all but had my nose pressed against the glass watching for them..we watched another cutey meet her family then we FINALLY watched them walk towards thedoor. I handed off the camera and started crying and jumping up and down like a school girl. The next part, I'm not exaaggerating a bit. Will walks in, takes one look at us, screams at the top of his lungs hits the floor arches his back kicks his feet and rolls arounds. The nanny picks him up to his feet he yells "I don't want to" in Chinese and turns around and runs out the door. Literally out the door, all 4 of the orphanage staff run after him...there was no hello, nice to see you again, no greeting Will, and that was our gotcha moment!...the next 5 or so minutes was us listening to him crying and the four of them barganing/yelling at him in Chinese in the hall of the Civil Affairs office...They finally drag him in kicking and screaming (literally) and then one of the men sat with him on the couch and after a few minutes he stops crying..I FINALLY approach after about 10 minutes and try to coax him with a car and a sucker...He smacks the sucker at me but at least takes the car from my hand and starts crying and pitching a fit again...He eventually stops pitching a fit and just sits and sobs...there was never any conversation between us and the staff, just a few quick photos, and the nanny decided to just run out the door when she realized she couldn't console him and her presence was just making him worse...when he relizes they were gone...kicking and screaming reassumes...Mike has to carry him out because poor little guy is one big hog of a kid...he won't let Mike hold him in the van and falls asleep standing up with his head against the window. When he wakes up he's VERY catonic...Un fortunately, we had to turn around and go back to Civil Affairs because they forgot to take our picture...I think everyone just wanted us to leave..he didn't pitch any more fits but stayed almost catonic for about 2-3 hours. My heart is just breaking at this point...he's so pitiful and it was almost hard to decide if he was awake or asleep. Then slowly out of nowhere, he starts playing...then in a matter of 30 minutes he's running around the room laughing playing ball baloon and cars!...and from there, it was all over, like a switch...poof now we are happy. Since then giggles, playing bathtime (after a bit of a fight but there was a potty accident and the choice was over after that) eating ect...Mike seems to have a buddy...and all is great! I just CAN'T get over the transformation! I will say as expected, he had on 50 layers of clothes and wouldn't let us touch them and sweated like a pig and smelled like one to!!! It's been a wild day....here's the photos...some of them are very sad...you can just see it on his face...but overall, it's been a great day...we are so glad to finally be united with him!!! Thanks God!

17 comments:

  1. Aidan never screamed or ran, which made it even sadder I think, but he sobbed silently standing in one position, then sobbed aloud during the day at the bank and in the hotel lobby, and then after the first night's sleep, the switch flipped, as you say. I despise the words Gotcha Day! because I think that sounds like we are thieves and because I think it belittles just how much trauma our children have gone through on that day. So glad you didn't show yourselves with big cheesy grins while holding an obviously distraught child. And I can actually see the progression in him. Kids are so amazing!

    Ruby

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  2. Oh my goodness! What a day! You must be exhausted from the emotional roller coaster. I am so glad he perked up after a little while. The picture of him eating with his dad is absolutely precious! It's such a good thing they've become buddies. There is NO WAY you could carry him through China! I am so happy for you. Honestly, your gotcha moment scares me to death, but the end justifies the means. It's just so painful sometimes. So happy that you have him...he is yours!! Congratulations! I can't wait to see his progression throughout the next week!!

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  3. I'm laughing and crying at the same time! Poor Will, what a strong personality! I hope today is better!

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  4. I absolutely could not wait to read your blog this morning. I barely had my eyes open and I was sitting at the computer!!! Poor Will, I can only imagine all the emotions he is experiencing right now. Hang in there and don't take anything personally. Asher and Anderson have been crowded around the computer to see the newest DeLuca!! We all agree, he is adorable!

    Much Love,
    The Bowe Gang

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  5. It sounds like you have a son with strong willed personality..."Will" sounds like the perfect name. But as you know, the transition can be rough. I'm so glad you got him in the bath and saw some of his playful side. I hope more days like this are to come! Congrats on your son and having him your arms.

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  6. Wow, What a day! So glad it turned around so quickly for Will and you!

    Enjoy getting to know your new son and Congratulations.

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  7. I am exhausted just reading our post. So many emotions, but I know, as I am sure you do too, that each day will be better as he adjusts to having a family. He is one handsome little dude!

    Daisy

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  8. Oh my goodness!!! What an amazing roller coaster you had. I cant belive your kid-- it sounds like you have a strong willed little man on your hands but what an awesome personality he has. I already love him and cant wait to meet him. He is adorable by the way-- handsome little man!!! I am soooooooo thankful the day ended like it did and that he has his new "daddy buddy" and seems like he is loving his momma. I could not be any happier for you Myra. I will continue to pray for you!!

    Hugs,

    Christy :)

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  9. Sounds like you had quite a day! But I'm so glad he seems to be adjusting. I'll bet he is sleeping like a log right now after all that! (By the way, we didn't get our TA today :-( Maybe next week.)

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  10. YEA!!!! So glad you got your little boy. I'm sure things will all smooth out in time. Enjoy the craziness and get as much sleep as you can.
    AmominFL

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  11. Wow. That must have been so emotional on many levels. So happy you are all together and Will is coming around.

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  12. Bless his heart! I know that was tough for him and you guys also. Now it is time for you guys to get to know each other! Enjoy this time and I hope all of you are able to sleep!

    Jackie Titus

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  13. Hi Myra,
    I am a good friend of Jenn's and a big fan of Miss Wesleigh Jane! I wanted to send you a cyber hug from a Mom who has been there done that. Last year, March 1, 2010 in the Hunan Civil Affairs office! We had one precious 4 year old spicy girl that lit up the place. Like you, I am pretty sure our group could not wait for us to exit to our hotel room... The next day we had to go back to the scene of the crime, and I was dreading it... Sienna amazed us all!! She was perfect, and happy... I won't say we didn't have tough days, but 10 months later she is one amazing, happy, and well adjusted 5 year old!!!! Blessing to you as you watch your precious boy bloom! ~Diana

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  14. I'm so happy the day ended well. He is yours forever and just precious. I hope your night has been good and that your Tuesday is great!

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  15. Loved the title of the blog. To be sure, it wasn't going to be easy but it sounds like you survived in one piece. Keep the pictures coming! Yay!!! He's yours!!!

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  16. What a day! Hope you rest well tonight. Poor little guy, they just don't understand. I'm sure he will adjust to all of your love. Blessings

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  17. Will sounds absoultely amazing ... and he is adorable too! Gotta love that "strong-Willed, take matters into his own hands" personality! I'm sure if our son could have run out of the Civil Affairs Office, he would have too.

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